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Balance: What Do You Want to Be, Do, Have?

By Darcy Dane, DC, DACNB

In my day-to-day office life, when talking about balance, the dialogue is about physical balance. We are all familiar with the five senses: vision, hearing, touch, taste, and smell. What you may not know is that the vestibular organs are now recognized as their own multi-sensory processing unit. Unless something malfunctions (unsteadiness, dizziness, vertigo, a sense of floating), this system has likely never crossed your mind.

Dr. Dane with the Carolina Brain Center’s therapy dogs, Doc and Ollie.

However, the vestibular system can be thought of as our sixth sense. A good portion of my practice is helping to restore physical balance.

However, emotional/mental balance is also important. When asking the question, “What is balance?” People typically speak of harmony in one’s life.

The word balance evokes a different set of emotional responses in a person’s life that directly correlate with their past and present life experiences. Just like physical balance, most often it is the loss of balance in one’s life that gets people thinking about balance. Imbalance in life, like loss of physical balance, can bring you to your knees in crisis asking all kinds of questions. And these questions are important to investigate.

I sat through a mind-bending seminar back in my twenties as I was entering my fourth year of practice. The question or premise presented in that seminar—which still haunts my mind today—was “Are you willing to do what it takes to be who can have what you want?

The first breakout session was to no-holds-barred, write-out what you want to have. We were told to make our list in pencil (never in pen) and to let our imaginations run wild. We were to write the list as if it were impossible not to achieve. You can imagine the lists that were produced. I still have my initial list, full of material wants that I equated with success and happiness.

The second breakout session was more sobering because it was writing out who we would have to be and what we would have to do in order to gain all the haves. Most of us found out in short order that we were not really willing to do the work to be that person, because it was not in harmony with who we were.

No doubt there was reason the breakout sessions were ordered in the manner they were. They brought about deeper thoughts and desires beyond the material. Reflections about marriage, parenting, spirituality, work-life balance, etc., were brought to the forefront of our minds. Were there things we were willing to sacrifice to be, do and have?

So fast forward twenty-some years. I have boiled it all down to one thing: contentment. Contentment covers it all. Am I content in my circumstances? Does my contentment change as circumstances change? Young people often ask, “Does life get easier the older you get?” My answer is, “No, not even a little, but you handle the flux of life with more grace and ease, so it feels easier.” The only way to handle life’s curve balls with grace and ease is remaining content despite the circumstances that surround you. And the only way I have found contentment is through my relationship with Jesus Christ.  

The Apostle Paul writes in a letter to the Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. 9 What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you. 10 I rejoiced in the Lord greatly that now at length you have revived your concern for me. You were indeed concerned for me, but you had no opportunity. 11 Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. 12 I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. 13 I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

Can you identify the be, do, have in these verses?

In closing, I have to examine a patient thoroughly to identify what is causing someone to feeling dizzy in order to fix the problem and restore balance. Therefore, I would encourage everyone to do the exercise of be, do, have. It will certainly, help you identify disharmony if it exists and only then can you begin to fix the problem and head towards harmony in life, living, and loving